“You Gotta Understand”

I hate it when people tell me, “You have to understand that…” My immediate visceral response is “no, I do not have to understand….(that you think your position is the right one and that all the others, including mine are wrong…)”

It’s one of my language “pet peeves.”

I was listening to President Biden’s first press conference yesterday, in the car, when he corrected himself in regards to this particular language faux pas. A reporter had asked him a question about the immigration issues at the southern border and his immediate response was, “you have to understand…” and then he stopped himself and said, “no, I recognize that you already understand the issue, what I mean is that the area we have to focus on is…”

I nearly had to slam on my brakes in appreciation of his self-censorship in recognizing that he is dealing with smart people who have a deep understanding of the issue. In most situations, those people who tell us that “we have to understand…” don’t understand that we already have well formed ideas and thoughts about issues and that their little lecturette is probably not going to sway our thoughts, even if they insist that “we have to understand.”

There, I feel better and thank you, Joe Biden!

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What are your Curious About?

There are mysteries all around us and this is certainly the season of mysteries from the Christmas star to the Hanukkah Menorah.

More importantly, perhaps, is the idea that we can think about our work and relationships as having a mysterious edge to them. If we approach projects, sales, team building and certainly leadership development as a mystery waiting to be unwrapped and discovered, then we wash away the concern that something may be overwhelming or “too hard.”

My favorite way to unravel a mystery and feed my sense of curiosity is to ask questions. Not only is it the easiest way to find answers but it allows others to share their wisdom and experience and creates a strong bond of connection.

I’ll be taking some time during our walks in the woods or down by the water this next week to think about the wonders and mysteries surrounding me and plan to build that muscle so I can enjoy solving the mysteries that await in 2021

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Serve or Savor

The writer, EB White once remarked that “I wake up each morning torn between a desire to serve the world and to savor it. This makes it difficult to plan the day.”

While those choices may make it difficult to plan the day, they both are delicious choices. Being in service whether it be to others to your business’s mission or to a cause you believe in provides energy and vitality to what you do. Savoring the day means that you get to enjoy all the world has to offer such as the fallen leaves coloring the sidewalk.

Perhaps it does not have to be a choice but can be something we find time to do everyday

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