“You Gotta Understand”

I hate it when people tell me, “You have to understand that…” My immediate visceral response is “no, I do not have to understand….(that you think your position is the right one and that all the others, including mine are wrong…)”

It’s one of my language “pet peeves.”

I was listening to President Biden’s first press conference yesterday, in the car, when he corrected himself in regards to this particular language faux pas. A reporter had asked him a question about the immigration issues at the southern border and his immediate response was, “you have to understand…” and then he stopped himself and said, “no, I recognize that you already understand the issue, what I mean is that the area we have to focus on is…”

I nearly had to slam on my brakes in appreciation of his self-censorship in recognizing that he is dealing with smart people who have a deep understanding of the issue. In most situations, those people who tell us that “we have to understand…” don’t understand that we already have well formed ideas and thoughts about issues and that their little lecturette is probably not going to sway our thoughts, even if they insist that “we have to understand.”

There, I feel better and thank you, Joe Biden!

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Soaring as a Strength

I’ve been on holiday down in Florida this past week relaxing from my life while watching birds live theirs. I’ve been particularly taken by the feeding behavior of pelicans. Pelicans are odd by design but graceful in achieving their primary goals, which are flying and feeding. With a wingspan of 6 feet, their awkward movements on land become poetry in the air. Gliding just a few feet above the water, they watch and wait until they find their prey and...

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It’s All About the Language

I’ve been on holiday this past week and one of my vacation activities has been some golf. Today’s resort golf courses include a GPS and digital device that helps the golfer know their distance to the hole as they prepare for their next shot. Among the additional pieces of information on these digital maps is a description of the golf hole. As I played my round, I noticed that the write-ups of the golf holes all seemed to be designed...

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The Golden Ratio

I noticed my wife talking with her accountability partner, Christine the other morning. Sheila and Christine speak most mornings, checking in with each other about their accomplishments from yesterday and their objectives for today. For some reason, I stopped and listened a bit more than I usually do that morning. I noticed that not only were they checking in about what they had accomplished but were also sharing appreciations and compliments about what they had achieved. “That sounds so exciting.”...

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Work-Life Spaghetti

Everybody is striving for work-life balance, but it just isn’t happening. I rejected the idea of balance while ago and have been using the notion of work-life harmony to suggest that we want to recognize and honor the connections and joy between these 2 parts of our lives. After all, when we are at work, we take time to do personal stuff and most certainly aspects of work merge into our personal time. This week, however, a new idea came...

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Emptying My Brain

Over the weekend I decided to empty my brain. Boy, did I need that! I’ve just been feeling like my brain has been overloaded and I think the reason is because my brain is overloaded! Given my cabin fever with Covid and the freezing temps we’ve had here in town, plus all the crazy news and social media buzz that surrounds us and a very busy and full work schedule, left me mentally exhausted by the end of the week. A number...

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