Supporting the Good

Ever since I wrote a book on career development over 20 years ago, I’ve always coached people on their careers.  I love talking to people about how they can get the most out of their calling. I developed a tradition, early on, that whenever someone would tell me that they had left their job, I would congratulate them. It didn’t matter if they left of their own accord or if they were fired or downsized. Reframing their situation as an opportunity for celebration immediately created a context where they could look forward and not be bogged down by the past. Researchers indicate that there are four ways that we respond to people’s good or bad news.  We are either passively Read More

Those Pesky Potholes

It’s easy to talk about building resilience when we have time to recover from adversity and difficulty. We can process what happened, build a plan for recovery and look for opportunities to do better the next time. What do you do, however when things don’t go so well in the middle of the day. No one expects their day to be perfect and finding that you lose an important contract, forget to submit a report to your boss, or hear that one of your key employees is taking a job with a competitor can send even the most resilient person into a tail spin. Here are 5 strategies you can use to win over these kinds of daily events. Give Read More

Those Gritty Kids

My friend Facebooked a new picture of her 9-year-old daughter, Katie with a clarinet in her hand announcing that she was taking on a new challenge in the musical world. Along with her extracurricular activities in Tae-Kwon-Do, computer programming, robotics, and playing with her dog, this youngster has a constant smile on her face especially when challenged with something new to master. I kidded my friend today about “forcing” her daughter to take on all these new projects and she laughed, as she would consider herself the last person to compel anyone to do something they do not want to do. The truth is that Katie has some serious grit. We generally think of grit as perseverance and stick-to-itiveness but Read More

Building Your Sabbatical

We’re concluding our summer holiday in Amsterdam after a wonderful two weeks exploring the Rhine River. One of my observations about my own resilience is that it usually takes me about 4-5 days to really unwind and get into full relaxation mode which means I am not thinking about my regular life. This aspect of resilience, which is tied to how we let go, recharge, and bounce forward can require a meaningful amount of time away from everyday existence such as through holiday breaks but finding little pockets of daily and weekly sabbaticals can prove refreshing and renewing. I’m kicking around some new ideas for daily recovery strategies and here are some I’m going to try out: Forget about a Read More