Please Don’t Endorse Me

For the past month or two, I’ve been getting endorsement emails from LinkedIn, telling me that Mark endorsed me as a coach or that Susan endorsed me as a strategic thinker. And when I log into my LinkedIn account, I’m offered an opportunity to reciprocate.“Does Mark know about leadership” (yes it say so on his LinkedIn description) or “Does Susan know about public relations” Duh, she heads up Susan’s Public Relations. I feel somewhat obligated to reciprocate since folks are being so kind to me and since LinkedIn has made it so darn simple to be an endorser, but I’ve decided that I don’t want to cheapen my own recommendation index by throwing out random “atta boys and girls” just Read More

Being Micronice

My wife, Sheila came home from an Ending Racism Conference in Baltimore a few weeks ago at which 1500 people attended. She and her Interplay colleagues presented at several plenary sessions and it was as she said, “an amazing conference. One of the ideas she specifically mentioned was about “micro-aggressions “ which is a term that was coined by Chester Pierce in 1970 and relates to the idea that racism or sexism occurs in subtle ways in which demeaning statements, not intended to be racist are made. The web site provides a few examples: “Me: Hey, should I go to a steakhouse or to a sushi place for dinner with my family?” Friend: I think you should go to Read More

A Men’s Yoga Class…Yikes!

I have been participating in yoga for close to 35 years. While I would certainly not consider myself a serious Yoga student, I take classes once or twice a month and often practice some poses at home. I’m also picky about my yoga classes. I’m from (I guess) the old school and enjoy my yoga as a relaxation tool in my fitness routine rather than as aerobic exercise. To me yoga fits perfectly into my two of my five kinds of fitness that are relaxation and flexibility. I leave endurance, cardio and strength to other days and other workouts. Over where I work out a new yoga instructor, Susan, has introduced Qigong Yoga that integrates slow rhythmic breathing along with Read More

Five Ways to Be Like Hurricane Sandy

Hurricane Sandy is churning up the waters off the eastern shore as I write this and all predictions indicate that she will be making her way to the Western shores of the Allegheny River tonight along with 50 mile per hour winds.While its wise to be cautious about an intense hurricane like Sandie, her story is making big waves across the country. Big waves can be scary but everyone loves to watch them and see how they change the landscape in ways that could never be predicted. And like the fear created by the big storm, making waves with our lives can be scary also. Too many of us do our best to not disturb the water but to make Read More

You’ve Got The Motivation…Now Five Ways to Make It Happen

As I lay in bed this morning, I thought about what I needed to get done today. I felt excited as I was looking forward to some writing projects, meetings with some great clients and a scheduled visit to the gym for some cardio work. But how was I going to get it all done. I had the motivation, but could I put it into practice. As part of The Resilience Advantage, I’ve seen that habits and routines are essential to the follow through I need every day. I do my best to build in a schedule of when I want to get things done, but sometimes the scheduler is not in sync with reality. I’ve found that by identifying Read More

Try a New Way To Sleep

A critical element in my Resilience Advantage Program is making certain that recovery time is built in so that our bodies and minds can fully recharge after a full day of effort. While there has been much written recently about the troubles that Americans are having with sleep, a recent article in the New York Times presented some important and different ideas to this notion essentially trashing the idea that an uninterrupted night of sleep is the gold standard for our biological recovery.Not only is the 8-hour sleep recommendation a recent historical phenomenon but also represents a cultural perspective as well. Research done by a Virginia Tech history professor showed that in recent historical times people thought of sleep as Read More

Do You Overuse?

We all have our strengths, the things we do best. For some of us it may be that we are execeptional communicators or are great with numbers, or have an innate ability to see the big picture and are able to act on it with ease and effectiveness. But sometimes, we can become so reliant on strength that we may become dependent and overuse that skill to where it becomes a weakness. Like the runner who works to set new personal distance and time records, overusing a muscle can lead to all kinds of injuries that require time off and perhaps even finding a new way to run. Consider the senior executive I was working with recently who had a Read More

Why Do These Things Happen?

Deciding that we would not do more than 4-5 hours on the road during our drive around vacation meant that we would stop off someplace between Montreal and Pittsburgh. My friend Kristy suggested Seneca Falls, home of the Women’s Rights National Historical Park and the beautiful surrounding land of the upper New York State’s Finger Lake Region. This has to be one of the smallest national parks taking up about ½ of a square block on the western end of downtown Seneca Falls (which by the way is reputed to be the town that Frank Capra used as his model for “It’s a Wonderful Life”). The Park is composed of an exhibition building which houses information about the two day Read More

“Bonjour, Hello”

We were enjoying our holiday trip to Montreal but it was not without it hitches. Upon crossing the border we stopped off at an unstaffed “Welcome Centre” only to find that all the announcements were in French. Now suspecting that most people stopping off at the Centre would probably be visitors who might not be native Quebecians would lead one to think that publications would appeal to the language of visitors, but c’est la vie. However it was great to see that everywhere we went after my perfunctory, “bonjour” and “parlez-vous anglais”, we were able to engage in easily understood english so much so that I wanted to try out some of my college French only to be told that Read More

Fine Dining

Just because we’re on vacation does not mean I should not be blogging. After all, bloggers have to report their whole life and not just a part of it. As we were driving to NYC and beyond for a mini family reunion (just one side of the family and most of my favorite cousins) we were approaching the New Jersey border and realized it was time for dinner. As is the case we pack a box lunch and enjoyed our sandwiches, fruit and chips (forgot the cookies) but needed to stop and enjoy a regular meal. As we prepared to exit in Tannersville, Sheila saw a sign that said Comfort Inn Tandoor Palace Restaurant Fine Dining Now any place that Read More