Archive for June, 2012

Engage Your Core

Wednesday, June 20th, 2012

I was watching the US Golf Open this past weekend and I heard one of the runner-ups talking about why he missed a critical putt during the final round. “I just didn’t engage my core as I stood over and putted the ball”  he told his inquisitor.

His comments reminded me of what my physical therapist told me a few months ago after I went to see her about some back pain I was experiencing. “Engage your core by tightening your abdominal muscles when you are doing different activities like walking, stretching and lifting weights” she told me. I guess she forgot to include my golf swing.

Engaging and strengthening core or abdominal muscles is a popular activity today. Yoga and Pilates have it as a key element in their systems and the idea that strengthening and working from your body’s nucleus means that you have the full power and force of your entire body when you do physical activities of any kind.

How can we translate core physical fitness to our everyday life. What would it mean to have everything we do, physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually come from a deeply centered and stable place within ourselves? How can we engage our core life muscles into our work and home life?

Here are five ways you can “engage your core” in everything that you do including your physical fitness

  1. State your intention—There is no better way to establish your direction than to state where you are going. Whether it is writing down and saying what you want to accomplish today or telling a colleague your plans for completing that project, getting it down on paper and words will do the trick.
  2. Determine what’s important and act on it—Values, values, values. I recently returned from a professional workshop a few weeks ago where I remade the decision to define wealth as “discretionary time”. While I don’t want to give up financial success, I also want to make sure I don’t miss out on the small things in life that can give me pleasure today. One of the small ways I’ve changed that is to not go back to my computer at night to work but to instead sit out on my deck and read a fiction or non-fiction book that is not work related.
  3. Reaffirm relationships—It is very easy in our busy lives to lose touch with those people who mean the most to us. I had a friend who recently told me that she reconnected with a group of college buddies and they’ve started having annual reunions where they’ve gotten together, rehashed their old times and talked about their future plans.
  4. Find meaning in your life—Many people continue to tell me that they are dissatisfied with what they are doing but feel stuck in their job and can’t leave due to the economy. I understand that predicament and what I suggest to folks is to find some task, some activity, some project that will bring you a greater sense of satisfaction. It may be helping someone out, or completing some aspect of a project or assisting a customer to resolve a problem.
  5. Go all in—Just like the hokey pokey dance, when you put your whole self in you find a great deal more joy and enjoyment. Try throwing yourself into what you are doing and see if your full engagement helps you bring your best self to the forefront.

Engaging your core may start with your abs but you’ll find yourself finishing with a smile

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Staying Sane in An Insane World: A Key Tip

Monday, June 18th, 2012

I took a trip to see my brother Chuck and sister-in-law Robyn last week in DC. We met up on Friday night and after a delightful dinner at a nice restaurant that required sports coats, we headed back home and I looked forward to enjoying a couple of rounds of golf with him over the weekend.

On Saturday morning when I looked for my car keys, I couldn’t find them but figured I would find them later as we headed off for the course. Later that day and on into Sunday I continued the search for the keys like I did for my lost golf balls earlier in the day—anywhere and everywhere.

I was feeling my frustration level building up during the process and I continued to fight the urge of self-flagellation believing that the keys had to be in one of the 50 spots in and around their house that I had already searched 50 times. By the time Sunday afternoon rolled around, I knew it was decision time—the keys were lost and I had to get home.

I really had two choices—Borrow a car from my brother to drive back to Pittsburgh and return next weekend with the spare key or arrange to have my car towed back to Pittsburgh, a proposition that would cost $500 even with my AAA membership. I ran the equation through my head a number of times…

(Time from Pittsburgh to Washington) (X 2)= 9 hrs+ (Cost of Gas)= $60+ (Loss of Relaxation over the Weekend) =Priceless

Vs.

Having Car Towed= $500

I guess it was that priceless part that got to me as I invoked a maxim that I remembered hearing that my grandmother use to say, “If it’s a problem that can be solved with money, then it is not a problem”.  I chose the towing option and after the hookup and a stop for gas and with my dog Clancy in my lap, Mike the tow truck driver got us home in time for a beautiful Pittsburgh sunset.

I felt good about my decision and was particularly proud of the fact that I did not berate myself for losing the keys. I realized I invoked a key optimism strategy that says that when bad things happen, you should not allow it to generalize to all parts of your life.

Of course, as you might guess, my brother found my keys the next day. It seems that when we took off our blue blazers at the restaurant Friday night, we somehow picked up the wrong ones and he discovered my keys in the pocket of my blazer when he went off to a meeting that morning. As if that wasn’t enough good news, when I went to check his blazer (that fits me perfectly)  I discovered that my new blue blazer is practically new.

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The Creative Juices

Thursday, June 7th, 2012

I’ve just returned from a weeklong workshop with about 25 of my closest friends. It seems that my wife and I often take our vacations as workshops and while we do get away to amazing international places such as Australia and Malawi, Africa along with visits to US hideaways at the ocean or Great Lakes. This year’s version took us up to wine country in Northern California to a beautiful retreat center overlooking rows upon rows of wine vineyards.

Our focus however was on play and how to use play for spiritual, personal and professional development. Our leaders, Cynthia Winton-Henry and Phil Porter have been studying creativity for the past quarter century and have developed a system of play that integrates elements of body, mind and spirit that they named Interplay.

In my latest newsletter going out this week, I talk about the bankruptcy of WorldCom in 2002 and how the newly named CEO, Michael Capellas put together a 100 day plan to begin the company’s turnaround. Central to his belief for success was the recognition that “having fun” had to be a part of the formula. He tells the story of having a tough “into the night” negotiation about some element of the bankruptcy and when things got really tough between his guys and the bankers, he took out some footballs and started tossing them around. Pretty soon, folks were more relaxed and they were able to head off a stalemate that could have led to further disaster.

Interplay has a different approach which works to build in a culture of creativity and playfulness into the work environment before things get too crazy. It uses tools such as “incrementality” that helps people feel more comfortable about learning things slowly, “internal authority” which supports people trusting their own wisdom in expressing opinions and acting on their belief and “affirmation” which encourages colleagues and friends acknowledging the things we do well.

On top of all this is the fact that Interplay is based as an improvisational art form and helps participants learns to do things “on the fly” much as the rest of our lives actually exist. No matter how much you think you can plan things on a daily basis, life just has a way of twisting turns and sudden shifts.

I love vacations that combine the best of relaxation and learning. This one did it for me for sure. My juices are flowing and ideas are flowing like the River outside my door.

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